Masking is the act of concealing or altering your authentic self to fit in, avoid judgment, or cope with difficult situations. While masking can sometimes help you navigate social expectations or protect yourself from stigma and trauma, it often comes at a significant personal cost-especially when it disrupts the natural alignment between your temperament, character, and personality.
What Is Masking?
What Is Masking?
Masking involves suppressing natural behaviors, emotions, or interests and instead presenting a version of yourself that aligns with what you believe others expect. This is especially common among neurodivergent individuals (such as those with autism or ADHD), but anyone can mask to gain acceptance, avoid discrimination, or manage social anxiety. Examples include forcing eye contact, mimicking facial expressions, hiding stimming behaviors, scripting conversations in advance, or pretending to enjoy things you don’t.
How Masking Leads to Triad Mismatch
Over time, habitual masking can cause your outward personality traits to diverge from your core character traits and even your natural temperament. For instance, someone with a naturally sensitive temperament may mask by acting tough or emotionally distant, while a person who values honesty (character) may act secretive to avoid conflict. This disconnect can result in:
- Emotional dissonance and feelings of inauthenticity
- Guilt or discomfort when actions conflict with inner values or natural tendencies
- Burnout and exhaustion from constant self-monitoring
- Difficulty forming genuine connections and a sense of loneliness
- Confusion about your true identity and increased risk for anxiety, depression, and other mental health challenges
Masking can also mean you’re constantly “on guard,” which drains your energy and may keep you from expressing your true self-even with people you trust.
Trauma and Masking
Masking is often intensified by trauma. For many, masking becomes a survival mechanism-a way to avoid harm or rejection after negative experiences. Trauma can make you more likely to hide both your natural temperament and your true values, further entrenching the mismatch between how you act and who you truly are.
Learn more about how trauma responses add to mismatch.
Breaking Free from the Mask
Overcoming the effects of masking requires self-reflection, support, and a commitment to reconnecting with your authentic self. Recognizing when and why you mask is the first step toward realignment. The Ofi Alignment™ Assessment and Program are designed to help you identify where masking has shaped your personality, rebuild your confidence, and live more authentically-by bringing your temperament, character, and personality into harmony.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Q: What is masking?
A: Masking is when you hide or change parts of your natural temperament, character, or personality to fit in, avoid judgment, or feel safer in social situations.
Q: Who is most likely to mask?
A: Anyone can mask, but it’s especially common among neurodivergent individuals (such as those with autism or ADHD) and people who have experienced trauma or discrimination.
Q: How can I stop masking and be more authentic?
A: Start by noticing when and why you mask, seek supportive environments, and use self-discovery tools like the Ofi Alignment™ Assessment to reconnect with your true self-honoring your temperament, values, and authentic personality.